In the Closet

First and foremost, I should tell you I'm normal. So is my husband. If you met us in any social situation, we'd be the hilarious, moderately attractive young professionals talking politics, drinking, and waxing philosophic.

But somehow, four years into our relationship, we decided to become sexual deviants. We've opened it up, and are now living "the lifestyle." Or rather, we're trying to.

I just never expected it to be this hard. It's hard to meet people. It's hard to communicate in this new way. It's hard to decide on the rules. And mostly, it's hard to navigate the emotion. And yet despite all this, it's becoming one of the most rewarding steps we've taken toward personal fulfillment and closeness as a couple. As disingenuous as it may sound, becoming non-monogamous has brought us much, much closer.

But we're newbies, and we still have a lot to learn and a long way to go. So we're going to document our adventures, our mistakes, and our successes as we continue down our non-monogamy path.

And if you're wondering why there's no real name attached to this blog, it's because we're still in the closet. Everything we write here will be an honest account of how my husband and I are navigating this new side of our relationship; we're just not ready for you or anyone else to know who we are... I definitely admire people like Dan Eldridge who tell it like it is - that certainly takes a lot of courage - but for our families (who would most certainly be shocked), we're keeping it on the DL...